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7 days of ideas for helping your kids through the Covid-19 Slump ->>

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Back to School

1.

If your child is back to school, but doing school from home, help today by getting them some time outside for 20 minutes. This not only relates to school aged children, but also children 2 and up! Fresh air and breaks from the computer, will not only keep your child's heart rates up, but it will help their brain to be able to focus. If you see your child's behavior become more negative, exercise is proven to help the brain exert neurotransmitters and hormones that will better balance your child's behavior.

2.

Get your child outside and moving today, no matter how old they are. In addition to this, make a point to monitor what your child is eating, and try for foods that will nourish their brain. The motto, "you are what you eat" is no joke. If you are realizing your child may need new snacks, lunches and breakfasts, try these:

Fruit, granola bars with less fat or sugar, yogurts low in sugar, vegetables and peanut butter, cheese and meat rollups, nuts, eggs and toast, eggs in a tortilla with cheese, and the list goes on. Shoot for low sugar foods that are nutritious and healthy. 

3.

Today get your kids outside, and feed some healthy foods. Add to your intentional parenting today by implementing a way to get out into the public. Have your child  say hello to the people at the store, find some of the groceries you need, pay for items, order some food, or go to the park for a picnic. Try to get out in public with a purpose, while distancing. Just because you're distancing doesn't mean you can't make a concerted effort to be friendly and warm to those you see. Try to get your little ones involved in conversation with others outside your home or call up some family or friends for some Facetime. Of course, bring your sanitizer and masks, but be creative for ways to expose your child to things they need to learn for development. Get creative here!

4.

You guessed it! Implement days 1-3, and add having a talk with your child about emotions. Your child, ages 2 and up, may have thoughts about what has been going on during Covid-19 and the reality is that all of us (including the parents) are grieving the many things that we've lost over the past 6 months. They may have fears, or disappointments, and for some, they've enjoyed the extra attention they've received from mom/dad. Get into their world each day, and realize that their behaviors come from somewhere. "Children show behaviors as a means of communication. Children are trying to communicate with us the best way they know how." So, if a child is throwing himself on the floor, or slamming the door in your face, that is communication the child is trying to express, but doesn't know how to express in a healthy way. Peel back that onion and see if maybe the child does not feel understood during this time, or maybe is frustrated that he has to do school online and can't see his friends. Maybe that 4 year old misses his playdates, and needs more individual attention. Here are some ideas for helping kids to feel understood, appreciated, respected, and boost their moods:

go on a date with one child, talk one on one in the car while driving, ask the child what you can do better (I know, scary), have family meetings where all kids can be heard and get on the same page, facilitate game nights where all are included and serve some good food, tell a child "good job, when they do something without being asked, tell them you are proud of them, give them responsibilities with a mean to teach and be tender- not to reprimand.  

5.

Day 5 is here! Implement 1-4 and try engaging in less technology today. Kids view technology often, especially now with school starting. If a TV show or two is how they enjoy down-time at night, (or while you get dinner made) that is fine. But hours of television limits social skills and actually can bring on negative behaviors because technology can be addicting. Too much screen time is also proven to overstimulate some kids, resulting in negative behavior. Replace technology with play time where you get on the floor and play with your child, do a craft with any age child, play a card game, send the child outside, or Target used to have a "bored buster" game in the dollar section that was great to get kids thinking of things to do! 

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Implement 1-5 and add being together. If you have found ways to be together this week through the ideas given on other days, great! If not, try to spend one night a week where you are able to play with toys, build, walk, ride, hit the ball, play a game, or watch a movie together. The ideas are endless, but make sure to actually get to talk for part of the night, interacting socially. You will see behaviors change, and trust start to build for your child. Do not pick apart the things you see in your child. There is plenty of other time for constructive criticism. 

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This day is for you! Things described above will become more normal the more you do them. It is proven through much study and research that the ideas implemented by you each day will change moods and behavior, along with core beliefs children can develop that are harmful during this trying time. Intentional parenting is tough, so take today and make sure that you get some time with your family to talk and play, but also to do something that will build you up and fill your tank. Take a bath, go get coffee and read a book, drop the kids at mom's, shop online, or even exercise. Try to pull one thing from these areas to fill your tank:

What do you enjoy socially, physically, spiritually, and emotionally? 

References:

Kranowitz, C., & Miller, L. J., (2006).  Out-of-Sync Child: Recognizing and Coping with Sensory Processing Disorder (The Out-of-Sync Child Series)

Lia, A., & Speake W., Triggers, audiobook

Siegel, D. J.,  ( 2012 ). The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind. 

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